The Uncharted Journey

A fresh look at an ancient topic of highest current relevance: is it possible to change the basic way we feel? Is our experience of life the product of what happens to us, or does it arise instead from what our mind does with it? If the latter, exactly how does our heavily conditioned mind determine the way we feel? Is it possible to free ourselves, to go beyond the need for people and events to be a certain way for our happiness and feeling of security? Is it possible to find love where love seems not to be? Read More >>

Learning to Love
From Conflict to Lasting Harmony

What holds a couple together? Why are we afraid of intimacy? How can we keep our hearts open to one another in the midst of hurt and resentment? In this provocative book, Don and Martha Rosenthal, acclaimed workshop leaders and founders of The Heartwork Center, help couples move through conflict and difficulty toward the love and trust essential to satisfying relationships. Read More >>

Equal and Unequal Relationships

The momentum of history presents me with the unequal dominant-submissive relationship, in which real intimacy is scarcely possible. In the dominant role I take more seriously my own self-interest and do what I want without worrying about my partner. In the subservient role (actually a disguised form of self-interest) I regard my partner's needs as paramount, swallow my feelings, and avoid standing up for what I want: I do what my partner wants and lack care for myself. Read More >>

Defenses and Healthy Boundaries

Q. In the past I have tended to allow others, especially my partner, to have their way at the sacrifice of my own interests. Afterwards I resent them. My partner has the opposite issue: he is very good at taking care of himself, but he is sometimes defensive and harsh in doing so. Can we take care of ourselves and remain loving? Read More >>