Showing couples a way of using their difficulties in the service of greater harmony

Perhaps the central challenge of intimate partnership is keeping the heart open when it wishes to close. Only by learning a new way of listening and responding to our partner can we move toward this goal. By opening to the difficulty inherent in relationship we transform it into something of value: pain and conflict become the raw materials for compassion and joy.

For over sixteen years Don and Martha have helped more than 800 couples change their relationships and their lives. Working with the actual raw material of conflict and negativity, they offer couples of all ages and backgrounds a way of using that material to enhance their intimacy. The more than 130 weekend workshops they have given in their Vermont Home and throughout the world have become known—largely through word-of-mouth—for their integrity, reliability, and transforming power. Only because so many have already found their lives deeply affected is this possible.

Don and Martha present a tangible vision of mature, loving relationship, along with practical tools for achieving it. This approach has repeatedly proven successful in healing relationships in serious difficulty. To well-functioning intimacies it has brought an added measure of closeness and joy.